Can't Be Broken
Can't Be Broken
From Panic to Power: Amber Lynne's Fitness Journey
What happens when life throws you a curveball so devastating it brings you to your knees? For Amber Lynne, a former LA County Sheriff's Department custody assistant of 17 years, that moment came in the form of a panic attack while trying to navigate her son's challenges. Feeling like she couldn't breathe and couldn't control anything, this wake-up call became the catalyst for a remarkable transformation.
During our conversation, Amber takes us through her journey from that bathroom floor to the competitive bodybuilding stage. After a year of neglecting her wellbeing while focusing entirely on her son's needs, she found herself 30 pounds heavier and emotionally exhausted. The turning point came when she discovered A2F (Addicted to Fitness), a gym where she immediately felt at home. Under the guidance of owners Mark and Arlene, Amber not only reclaimed her physical health but rediscovered her sense of purpose and identity.
What makes Amber's story so compelling is how she balances the intensity of competition prep with family life. As the wife of a sheriff's deputy and mother to a child with special needs, she's mastered the art of daily five-minute meditation, meal prep discipline, and maintaining a positive mindset despite challenges. Her philosophy that "you get what you give in life" has served her well both in law enforcement and on the fitness stage, where she placed second in her categories during her very first competition.
Whether you're struggling with mental health, looking to make a fitness transformation, or simply need inspiration to overcome life's obstacles, Amber's practical wisdom offers a roadmap. She debunks common fitness myths, shares how to approach gym intimidation, and reveals the mindset shifts that helped her find peace with herself at 40. Ready to reset your life? Amber's journey proves it's never too late to become the strongest version of yourself—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
What up, what up, what up, and welcome to another episode of Can't Be Broken Podcast. I am your host, seamonster, and today I am blessed to have in front of me an amazing human being here who has a story and a journey of I've just given back and we're going to listen to her story and we're going to just try to get the most out of her and her time, to give back, of her experiences, journey and her story. First of all, I came in contact with her by a guy by the name of Prime, who led me to her, and just an amazing person. My wife is the one that put me onto Prime. Then we connected and we just vibed, and so I'm blessed to have met Prime, who put me onto this beautiful human being sitting in front of me, amber Lam Good morning, good morning.
Speaker 1:And thank you for coming on the Can't Be Broken podcast. I appreciate it.
Speaker 2:Thank you for having me. I'm super pumped, nervous, but pumped yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, I get nervous all the time, but it's good.
Speaker 2:Okay, good.
Speaker 1:Being nervous means that you're just going to have to focus a little more, or whatever.
Speaker 2:It just means it's important, right, it's important.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Amber Lamb, who's a fitness enthusiast. Fitness bikini competitive. I did. Okay, I did bikini. My very first competition was november last year and then I have another one coming up in june. So I kind of did one and then they said you're going to get hooked.
Speaker 1:And they were correct, it's like a tattoo. It is like a tattoo.
Speaker 2:Well, I only have one, I have one tattoo but only one, so you didn't get hooked.
Speaker 1:No, I definitely didn't. I was like, oh no, that's not for me yeah, and then, uh, you're also a former custody assistant with the LA County Sheriff's Department.
Speaker 2:Yes, I worked there for 17 years. 17 years. It was great. I loved it it was a really good experience for me. I met some of the best people I think I've ever met in my life there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Friends that I still have to this day.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I medically retired about two years ago, but I still keep in contact with a good majority of them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean anybody, I think, who is a first responder comes from, hopefully, the purpose in the heart I would say 98% or 99% lead with their heart of giving and with hope and faith to change and to assist and to serve. Yes, you know, unfortunately sometimes it changes.
Speaker 2:It does.
Speaker 1:And then, as you, I mean, we can sit here and gripe about some people that have bars on them and political means and things like that.
Speaker 2:That coveted testing really comes for you. Huh yeah, exactly. No, I know I'm not supposed to say that, but it's the truth.
Speaker 1:We'll let Prime do that for us. Yeah, exactly, he does a good job at doing that. Welcome to the show. Thank you for having me. I'm very happy that I came and drove out here to meet you in person, tarantula kukamanga yeah.
Speaker 2:Not too bad of a drive.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, not too bad, but it is LA and it is raining a little bit, or actually they say well, actually in the news they think it's a storm, you know. It is a storm for LA. Yeah, exactly. Anything more than one inch, it's a storm yeah, exactly. Tell us a little bit about yourself in regards to where you grew up, okay, and a little bit of your journey of getting into being a custody assistant and whatnot, and where you're at now, and then we'll move forward into your fitness journey.
Speaker 2:I grew up in West Covina. I went to school at a place called Western Christian. I loved the school, private school.
Speaker 1:I'm an only child, just me, my parents said you got everything, you know what? No, actually I didn't.
Speaker 2:My dad, was very much like you have to work for what you get. So they were well off, unfortunately, I was not.
Speaker 2:I worked from when I was like 13 on. I worked at the company that he used to work for and then I worked for my mom and then I had pretty much two jobs the majority of my life, either as a waitress and if I worked at a bank. And then I had someone, a friend of mine, who worked for the sheriff's department. I kind of saw his, the way that he kind of went through it and I was like this might be good for me. Way that he kind of went through it and I was like this might be good for me. I wanted something strictly for myself. So I wanted to be able to provide for myself, have my own insurance and kind of give me something that didn't. I didn't have to really rely on anyone else. So I didn't even tell my ex at the time he had a softball tournament.
Speaker 2:He said are you coming? I said Nope, he's like where are you going? So I'm gonna go take the test to be a custody assistant. He didn't believe me, he left and I took it and passed. Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's a story for another day. Yeah, that's a story for another podcast. But like, just going back to that, how did didn't it scare you a little bit, like thinking, oh my God, I'm going to be working with inmates and whatnot, or like, did you always have that personality that you weren't scared? I think I was very naive.
Speaker 2:Okay, I grew up very beaver cleaver. My parents were happy, everything was sunshine and daisies. I didn't grow up kind of really being exposed to a lot of stuff, so I think I went into it naively and once I got there, it was definitely a little bit of a shell shock. Yeah, your first couple of weeks there, I think it's just a learning curve. I think that everyone has and we all learn differently. But, um, I definitely believe and live by the fact that, like, you get what you give in life. So I feel like I was respectful of people and they were respectful of me and a good majority of the time I didn't really have any issue. I didn't get a whole bunch of pushback. Like I said, I feel like if you give people respect, regardless of whatever avenue of life they're in, you're going to get that back. So, from the inmates to people that were working there, to brass, you kind of just treat people the way you want to be treated and I definitely live by that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I totally agree as well. I mean, I did gosh almost 20 years in the sheriff's department and I think some of the best cops or better cops out there are the ones that are well, first of all, just good detectives like good, just proactive work and second, treating people with respect until you know, until they're-.
Speaker 2:You get what you give. You get what you give. Yeah, 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I never had any problems. People will say like the only I ever got on into in the sheriff's department was when you know the suspect was high on some dope and back in the day was pcp or something like that and you needed to restrain the person. But it was never like this guy just wanted to fight me or something like that. Yeah, um, for for whatever reason, right, um, okay, so then you grew up there, took the took the test, ended up working.
Speaker 2:I worked at Twin Towers for about seven or eight years. Then I had my son and then after that I took about a year off. I saved a ton of time because I really wanted that first year with him to just like bond and be there. It took me a long time to get pregnant, so it was, for me, super, super exciting. After that I went back. I worked at the academy for about five years and that spot was amazing. I worked with 99% of very, very good people. They were super open, very embraced, like embraced me, and it was just honestly like a lot of fun, like who at the time, like you were getting paid to work out and like run and yell at people, like it was great. Yeah, I came home real relaxed, um. So I worked there for about five or six years left and ended up going to lcmc, worked there for about another two or three years and then retired yeah, so yeah, I remember going through the academy, just in the academy, without even being on the department.
Speaker 2:I'm like dude, they're paying us to shoot guns and like yes, you know, fight with the red man and you're so nervous when you're there but honestly, it's probably the best time in your career, like everyone always remembers when they were in the academy, when they went and did that stuff, because you're, you're so excited to be there. Everyone is so fresh and so eager to learn and like please and like want to do all these things. You get you get the like just a great energy from people a good majority of the time, but it's still nerve-wracking yeah, you're there for sure it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1:It's a lot of fun. It is um. It can get a little crazy, like you said, as you, as you get on their uh, mindset, ego, certain things happen. You know you get politicians and people um supervisors that shouldn't be supervisors and whatnot, but at the end of the day, you know we're there to serve. You did your job, yeah.
Speaker 2:And I really enjoyed it. Yeah, I really enjoyed it. There's nothing about that's by far the best job I had in my whole. Anywhere that I worked Restaurants, groceries or wherever it may be. Working there was just awesome.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I really enjoyed it.
Speaker 1:What got you? Obviously, when did your fitness journey begin? How did that, how did that evolve so?
Speaker 2:I've always kind of worked out. I played volleyball in high school and a little bit in like at a junior college. I really enjoyed it. I've always kind of. My mom is very much into fitness so she used to be like an aerobics instructor. Her and my dad owned like a racquetball club a long long time ago in oh she's going to kill me I don't remember Right around Santa Anita. Sure, we're going to go with that, okay. But it was when racquetball clubs were really like the thing. So I kind of grew up doing that, doing Jane Fonda tapes with her and like really enjoying that her and like enjoying that.
Speaker 2:But after I worked at the sheriff's department when I retired, we struggled a little bit with my son and with my relationship. So I think I kind of took that year really just to like reset and really refocus on him. He struggles with like speech and he struggles with sorry some of his like behavioral issues and things like that, where I really had to take some time to not be focused on myself and just learn the most that I could about what he was struggling with. So I could kind of reframe my life around what we needed to make sure that he had everything he needed. But it's, it's taxing and you know, I mean anytime that your kid struggles with anything, it's it weighs on you a hundred percent and everything fell off. So I basically took that whole year off of everything. I didn't do anything for myself, I didn't do anything really for anyone else. I kind of just it was a tough year just because we kind of had to me and my husband were moving in the same direction. But it's, it's difficult because your energy and focus has to go somewhere and unfortunately at that time all my focus had to be on him. So we struggled, he struggled and I really had to take that year to reframe my life.
Speaker 2:Once I did that and I finally figured out the therapies that he needed and the things that he needed, I remember having legit having a panic attack in my bathroom one time, and not not even knowing what a panic attack was, I just felt like I couldn't breathe and like couldn't control anything in my body. And I remember he knocked on the door and he said are you okay, are you alive? And it legit hit me where I like clicked and stopped and I was like what, what am I doing? Like I'm sitting here just basically like pitting myself because everything in my life isn't perfect and it's not. No one's life is perfect. And I remember saying, okay, like he can't grow up like this, I can't do this for enough, like I need to just like kind of clear the mechanism and start over. And I did. I just started.
Speaker 2:It was like I just need to find a gym. Like I can't go to a big gym, I can't be somewhere where I'm like having to do this by myself. I need someone to guide me. And I, randomly, was looking through Yelp and I found A to F and I went in and I was like, let me just go check it out. And I remember walking in and like being able to take a this is my spot, like these are the people I'm supposed to be around. They were just warm and focused from the jump, from the second that I walked in and it just kind of clicked from there.
Speaker 2:I remember going, I worked out with Arlene for the first week just pretty much just me and her because of the time that I could be in there, and she's just such a great human. Her and her husband are, honestly, salt to the earth, like just great people. Yeah, and I was hooked after that and I was about 30 pounds heavier than I am right now and completely yeah, completely just because I took that year and I didn't do anything. I just ate and drank and like lived my best life, because or what you thought was what I thought was 1000, but in that moment I was just like this is what makes me happy you were coping.
Speaker 2:Yes, I'm just going to grab that bottle of Malibu and live my best life.
Speaker 1:And I did, and I did.
Speaker 2:Don't judge me for what I drink. Right right but.
Speaker 1:Well, this is not Zima. People don't even know what you're talking about. I literally don't think.
Speaker 2:Yes, they all tasted, they were all white yeah, like sprite, yeah, exactly oh man.
Speaker 2:So anyways, once I met mark and arlene, I just, yeah, I kind of had like a mental shift, um, and I just really committed and I'm just one of those people that once I decide to commit to something, I'm going to commit to something. I came in I saw Mark and Arlene and they were like, okay, let's just take this year and like get, get this extra weight off you and we'll go from there. And they had kind of talked to me the entire time I was there about like you should compete, like you have a physique that like I think we could tweak and like really get you to a spot. It would be good for you, it's something strictly for you. And I fought it and fought it, and fought it and I finally got those about 30 pounds off, but I had no muscle whatsoever. And she was like okay, now it's time to lift. And then we took a whole nother year to like just really build. And it was so, just honestly, so fulfilling for me because you start to see results and then it becomes infectious. Fulfilling for me because you start to see results and then it becomes infectious Like you start to lift, especially as a woman. I think you hit.
Speaker 2:I hit 40 and that's when, like my world came crashing down. I was like shit. My body looks like shit, my face looks like shit, I feel like shit. I can't help my kid, I can't help my husband. Like I couldn't. I felt like so, like my hands felt so tied and I was just like I have to start somewhere, and I think I kept trying to do it all at once, that I was just like I need just to take a minute to just focus on this and then shift and focus on that and do that, and once I did, literally all the pieces of the puzzle started to like fall into place and then I became addicted.
Speaker 1:It's funny how you your husband's a deputy as well. Yes, he's a deputy who works at Compensation?
Speaker 2:Okay. Shout your husband's a deputy as well. He is. He's a deputy who works at Compensation.
Speaker 1:Okay, shout out to them. They're wonderful people. Shout out to them 28.
Speaker 2:28.
Speaker 1:Yes, good for you All right, I was 21. Okay, century Too bad.
Speaker 2:I'm just kidding. No, just kidding, I love it.
Speaker 1:I love it, jk, yeah, and then my wife and myself. You're in a profession where there's a lot of stress, a lot of people depending on you and the community, and there's a lot of responsibility. And then there's your home, and this is your son, and that stress and that responsibility is different.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:Than the community and all that and that's what hit you and that's what brought you down and you know, putting all that time and not thinking about yourself and coping with obviously not putting the best food, alcohol, not working out all that stuff, I mean it just kind of was like ready to explode at one point or another. It did.
Speaker 2:And I'm telling you that moment that I had in the back. I've never had a panic attack before. So people that struggle with that, for me I did it. It hurts my heart for them, because I've had two in my life and that one was you just feel. So it's like an out of body experience. I couldn't control my breathing, I couldn't control anything and I if anyone who knows me knows that I'm a control freak I think most people who work in this industry are control freaks and I couldn't control anything. And I'm like I do not ever want to feel like that again, like how do I do this?
Speaker 2:And it wasn't just affecting me as much as I thought I was masking it and masking it from my son and masking it from my husband. I wasn't. I was literally a mess and I I just you ever get to a point where, like you feel like I felt like I was a puddle, like you can't pick up water, like I can't pick up water with my hands, like I needed to take some time to just like let everything settle and like be ready myself. And that was the moment where I was like okay, it's time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, wow, I mean um. So then, what is your? What is your training week? Look like now, Every day.
Speaker 2:So I have a competition in June, and it's not normally as intense as it is right now, but I do like to work out five days a week.
Speaker 2:Um at least, even if it's just, and so, almost honestly, you can ask my husband majority of time at seven, just cause I like to go do cardio on the weekends and just reset or stretch, whatever it may be, um Monday through Friday. Right now since I'm training for the comp, though, is in the morning, it's cardio like a good warmup of 20 minutes of cardio, a good hour to an hour of 20 minutes of of heavy lifting. Right now, which feels good, though, cause I feel like the last couple of weeks I've been able to truly push myself. I posted something the other day which I was all pumped about, cause I didn't even know what this meaning was. It's called plate loaded, I guess, when you use the entire amount of weights on a machine.
Speaker 2:I was so excited for myself, just to be able to do one. I was like what do you do? I'm like look, look, how amazing this is.
Speaker 1:Like I could do it.
Speaker 2:So it's heavy lifting, and then after that is another 20 to 40 minutes of cardio and then go home, rest up and then I normally come back and do another hour of cardio. Right now so it's six weeks out is pretty intense and I really want to do better than I did last time. Um, last time I did great, though I took second in both my categories and then I took third overall, which for me was for my first time up there ever.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was great, but now, like I said, I don't want to lose but you just never know who's going to be there. These people look, they all look amazing. It's amazing, yeah, and especially I feel like on stage, like you don't even really get to see it Backstage. You see how just yacked some of these women and men are, but like in phenomenal shape At 70, 60, 50, 20. Like Jesus, jesus, yes.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:There's a woman named Arby that works out at the gym with us. She's 70. Arlene is 62. You would never know. These women look like fire. It's insane.
Speaker 1:Insane. Yeah, that's a journey. I mean, that's a person that invests in themselves, that puts themselves first, yeah, and that's an infectious energy. It is that then comes out to you and you're like holy shit.
Speaker 2:Because I think, as women, we see like ugh, you get to a certain point and you're like all right, well, this just is what it is, and it's so not true, correct? Because you're around. Majority of the women that work out at this gym that I go to are 40 and above A good majority of them and they look insane. And not only do they look insane, they're just such good humans. Good humans, they are good humans, like so. So I remember doing my first comp and I looked out there and there was 20 of these women just sitting out there who took time away from their families just to sit in this room, pay a hundred dollars to watch me shake my booty on stage, like it was so, so great, and I think things like that really show you who people are.
Speaker 1:Oh, 100.
Speaker 2:They do If someone shows up for you. You can really see.
Speaker 1:Well, when you invest in yourself and your mind, body and soul, you're a good human being and that means that you're going to come out and you're going to be a good person and that's who you want to be around with. You do, Right, you do. I mean, you don't want that time drinking Malibu and Zima or whatever right You're at a bar. They're your best friends, oh my God. The next day you got a hangover. You don't feel good. What did I say?
Speaker 2:It's a two-day hangover after you hit 40.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it's a two-day hangover, at least two, at least two, no you do want to be around people that have a good attitude.
Speaker 2:I remember, even when I worked at the sheriff's department, I had to get there bright and early and I would be loud and turn on music and be like come on, let's go to court. And people would roll their eyes. But no sure Shit, 20 minutes later everyone else was in like a good mood and happy Cause. Who wants to be around someone who's like oh, I don't want to lift, I don't want to work out, I don't want to take him to court. I know, listen, we all have to do this shit. Let's just get it done, let's have a good attitude and move on with our day. Yeah, because it is infectious.
Speaker 1:I had this client, his dad. His dad turned me on to this book called the Energy Bus. Okay, it's just about energy. Okay, it gives a great example right off from the beginning. Same situation right now. You have bad attitude or bad energy right and you leave here and you're in a hurry to go get a workout in I got to go get this workout in and you leave and this car comes out in front of you and cuts you off and you're like what the hell are you doing? Flip them off. That's because of the energy you already had. But now you leave here and you're like what the hell are you doing? Flip them off? That's because of the energy you already had. But now you leave here and you're like, oh my God, I just did a great podcast. Oh my God, I can't wait to go work out. It's going to be a great day. And you leave here and that guy does the same thing cuts you off.
Speaker 2:It's not, you're not going to trip. Oh, don't worry about it.
Speaker 1:You know fault, it's the energy that you bring to the table. So, I learned that I was like that is true, you can control that. You can. And you're talking about being controlling and control freak and like how we are.
Speaker 2:Well, you can control that you literally, I've learned you can only control yourself. I can only control so much Like little things in life. You can control where you move things, how you decorate your house, whatever it may be. Those are controllable, but, like, how you're feeling. You're the only person that can control that and I think a lot of people need to learn that because it's just like, oh, I'm just grumpy or that's just my personality, or I'm just quieter, but you're not, because you'll be in different environments and you'll see people and they'll be sunshine and daisies. You're like, why can't that just be you all the time? Like, why can't that just be you all the time?
Speaker 1:Like who wouldn't want to be around that, yeah, I want to be around that they train themselves to say things like that so consciously, they'll say oh my God, this is so hard. And once you say that you don't even know you're saying it anymore. All of a sudden it becomes like that's who you are and that's what's happening, instead of like saying something positive. I've always told somebody. I've gone to job interviews where I told my daughter. It's like, oh, they asked me for my weaknesses.
Speaker 1:I said you don't have a weakness. That's right. You have something you can learn from and things that you're trying to get better at. You don't have a weakness, yeah. And also, don't answer the question like that or don't be like that she's all.
Speaker 2:next question. I'm not going to answer that. Yeah exactly. I don't answer stupid shit.
Speaker 1:I don't Exactly. That's your weakness now. But yeah, I mean what you say, how you talk, the way you think, how you treat people, how you treat people.
Speaker 2:But it all comes out, it does.
Speaker 1:And it comes back to you too. You got to be careful, because words have power they do, and you have to be careful, and sometimes we say things and we don't notice it and then the other person doesn't go. You know what you just said. You almost just quit right now because of what you said. You're like, oh my God, it's going to be so hard. Yeah, of course it's going to be hard, and you can say things like that because that's the way you feel it's supposed to be Right. Yes.
Speaker 1:But you can also turn it around and go. Man, this race is going to be super difficult, but you know what? I'm going to turn it around.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know? So people just leave it at that, Like it's going to be so hard. I don't know if I'm going to do it.
Speaker 2:Period, period, that's it. It's like no, no, that's what, and that's what you're going to put out to everyone else too. Exactly, and those are the people that are.
Speaker 1:I don't want to hear that shit either.
Speaker 2:I Morning and sunshine, just what I do.
Speaker 1:There's this girl named. I'm going to chop up her last name, but she's an ultra runner, okay.
Speaker 2:A professional.
Speaker 1:Her first name's Courtney, okay, I think her last name's Dual Water or Dew Water, okay. Anyway, she's amazing, kicking everybody's ass, from male to female, in all kinds of long distance competitions, and she has a crew right that paces her and whatnot. She says I don't ever want to say it because I'm hurting I'm hurting. Yeah, I'm sure I'm at a mile 70 something. Oh man, I still have another hundred to go.
Speaker 2:I don't even want to drive 70 miles.
Speaker 1:You think I want to tell you how I feel, but I don't want to hear that. I don't want you to tell me how, because what's going to come out as negative?
Speaker 2:and I don't want that yeah.
Speaker 1:I just this. I need this food. I need that. Yeah, I need you to take off my shoes and other socks. I need this. I need that. That's what I need. Okay, I don't need to hear like how are? You feeling yeah you know, I don't need that shit and it was amazing. I was like that's right, it makes total sense, because then you start to think about it yeah, like I'm feeling like shit, and then the words come out, and then it's like you start believing in all that and everything comes down um getting.
Speaker 1:Let's get serious into, like the competition now. Okay, I didn't talk to this with Monique.
Speaker 2:Okay, monique did a competition and she looks amazing.
Speaker 1:It was years ago.
Speaker 2:I keep asking her to do it again and again and again with me.
Speaker 1:I think she'll be back again.
Speaker 2:No, she's going to crucify it. She's savage. I love her. She's my work. She's my work, my gym bestie for sure.
Speaker 1:That's right she's great, I know you work out five days a week and all that. But the week before how long is it before you really dial in to like where it's going to be peak?
Speaker 2:Peak week is normally like the last week Okay this time. So last time I did it was my very first time, so it's like a science. Okay, me and Mark will sit down and he'll be, like I do an in-body every week. Last week was about 14 weeks. That I did just because I didn't know how my body was going to react. I felt like I was prepped too soon, and so did he. He was like you had, because we kind of got my body where it was going to be at that time. Yeah, about two, three weeks before, which is, I feel for myself, was a little early and it's hard to maintain that. So I felt like there was a moment, probably like two weeks before, that my body was better than it was when I competed.
Speaker 1:Is it hard physically, mentally, totally.
Speaker 2:To maintain yes, because I think you're constantly looking at these numbers and pushing yourself and looking at your body and tweaking, tweaking, tweaking, that there comes a point where, like, your body's going to freeze for a little bit and it's going to stop so even right now.
Speaker 2:I weighed in on Saturday and I'm the same as I was the week before and I feel like I'm killing myself, like diet wise and water wise, and making sure I'm trying to take everything that I'm supposed to, but sometimes your body does shut down on you and it's going to freeze and you're going to be like, okay, I need, yeah, plateau and you need to like reset so everything starts working at peak again.
Speaker 2:So my goal is to hopefully get there about a week before so it's just I can carb load and like basically enjoy that week and really rest and just do a little cardio and a ton of posing um I have an amazing posing coach.
Speaker 2:Her name is jen lau. She actually used to work out she still does work out at A to F, but she's so meticulous and I just so honest, I love it, cause she'll look at me and be like, nah, girl, that's not where it's at, we're going to move this or we're going to try that, and she has such a great eye. It's really putting a good team around yourself and I think I just happened to get lucky and fall into this place that had such great people already there. Then I'm like, yes, yes, I'll take you too, and yes, I'll take you too and do all those things.
Speaker 1:And A2F stands for Addicted to fitness. Yes, I hear nothing but great things about that.
Speaker 2:Obviously it is an awesome, awesome gym. I don't even want to say it on here because I don't want to lose it.
Speaker 1:I know right. I know right. I know I'm like don't go. Where did everybody come from? Why are they all here?
Speaker 2:No, he does a lot of online coaching too and she does online posing as well.
Speaker 2:But the environment in there is just something I've never had before and I think for a woman or even a man, anyone, a human you have to find a space that you feel safe in and comfortable to be able to like truly push yourself and focus, and that for me, that's that spot.
Speaker 2:Like I can go and I legitimately turn my brain off to everything else and just sit in there and focus and I have such a good time Like we laugh, we dance in there, we just cut up, but other than that, like everyone in there is really working towards some goal, have it be a competition, a weight loss journey, just like really working on your mental health or something that you just need for yourself on a day-to-day basis to like get your day cracking. I know a good majority of people are like you get up early to work out. I'm like, yes, I have to start my day with a workout because it clears out all the fluff that's in your head. You know we wake up sometimes and you're like in a bad. Sometimes you just had a shitty sleep or like a bad day or your kids pissed you off. Your wife pissed you off. Whatever it may be, you need to go clear it out. Yeah, it's the best way for me to start my day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it really is. What advice would you give somebody that went through or is going, you know that had a panic attack, that has a stressful something in their life that is distressed out about, maybe lost a family member, maybe has a family member that needs help, or something like that, or a marriage or whatnot. Right, so like, what would you say to get them started to overcome these obstacles and adversities and whatnot?
Speaker 2:I think the first thing for anyone is really just realizing that, like everyone goes through this Cause. I think when, when something like that happens, when you're struggling with something like with your kid or your spouse, like I think, sometimes you feel like you're on an Island by yourself. At least I did. I didn't know anyone whose son was struggling with ADHD or struggling with, you know, the behavioral or the speech issues, and he was our only one. So I think I felt so overwhelmed by trying to learn everything that I kind of suffocated myself with too much at once.
Speaker 2:I think, really taking time and just focusing on okay, this is what I need to focus on, give it all your attention and be able to, like, remove that from your plate and take a breath so you can focus on yourself, because there is times, at least for myself, that I had to give everything to him.
Speaker 2:Like my son needed all my attention in that moment and I was like, okay, this is what I'm going to do. I'm going to take this moment of time not forever, just this moment of time and I'm going to learn everything I can about this shit. I want to know what to do, where to go, who to talk to who's best at this. What should I be doing at home, all of those things, and really educate myself so I could take that off my plate and then focus on myself again, because I think it's so easy to just like, add and add and add, like I have to deal with this, and then I have to deal with this kid, and then I have to deal with my husband, and then I have to deal with my way and I'm not eating right and I'm giving it and everything. Just like the wall start to cave in. Just take a minute for yourself. I started doing. The first thing I started doing was a five minute meditation.
Speaker 2:Yes, I found it on YouTube. I just looked at five minute meditation and I made myself sit in bed, I closed all the doors and just listen to it for five minutes, and it legit helped me. It's hard to meditate, though.
Speaker 1:Meditation is not easy when you have a crazy brain like mine. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's easy for anyone.
Speaker 1:No, it's not, but little things like that. To sit in silence and to do that is very hard, to sit still yeah.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:That would change my life. Well, I used to do not meditation, but visionary. I don't know what that is. So that's putting myself and seeing myself actually do something. So when I played baseball, we had this guy that worked with us, because baseball is like a mental game 90% is mental.
Speaker 2:That's where the clear the mechanism thing came from.
Speaker 1:Clear the mechanism Exactly.
Speaker 2:That movie with Kevin Costner, kevin.
Speaker 1:Costner yes, he's a pitcher for the love of the game.
Speaker 2:That is the best moment in that movie, when it just shows that he shuts all that shit out, millions of people and can focus on just throwing a ball.
Speaker 1:Exactly. We had a coach that worked with us and he would say you need to see yourself accomplishing this. You need to see yourself hitting this grand slam to win the game. You need to see yourself training a double play, catching this ball. You need to see yourself. Okay, you know, when it first happened it was like 15 minutes, Then it got down to like five minutes. Okay, Right before every game I'd see it and sure as hell, I saw myself making these great plays and hitting the ball and doing all that. And I saw myself making these great plays and hitting the ball and doing all that. And all those things came true. So that's vision.
Speaker 2:That's seeing yourself. Seeing yourself. Okay, meditation is more calming everything down. It's hard to calm your brain being present.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's very hard. I don't do that as often as I should, and that's being still.
Speaker 2:Well, you can just start with a five-minute one, right?
Speaker 1:I, and that's being still Well, you can just start with a five-minute one Right.
Speaker 2:I mean exactly that for me was difficult, but really centering.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because it just kind of it stops your day and it took me a long time to even get through the five minutes because you find yourself, your brain just starts to wander, naturally and you have to like bring it back in. You're talking five minutes, but it's five minutes, but it's. It's not easy it's not easy. You still do it now I still do it now every morning every morning I get up.
Speaker 2:I get my son gets up around 6 30, I'll just let him watch a little tv. I go downstairs, I make my coffee and while I'm making it I turn it on and I just sit on the couch for five minutes and just like try to center myself and turn my brain off yeah yeah, I used.
Speaker 1:I used to. I still do it. I sometimes miss it, but I wake up, whether I take a shower or throw cold water in my face to wake up, get the nervous system going. And then I look in the mirror and I say three things that I'm grateful for. Okay, just so they put you in a good mood. Okay, right away.
Speaker 2:Have you ever done the ice bath for your face? Oh, um have you ever done the ice bath for your face? Oh yeah, okay yeah, I just did it, did you? It's wild to me that that's how a lot of women like it's really good for your skin, you just put a bowl of ice water and it does wake you up and it like snaps everything together.
Speaker 1:They sell this one that goes around your head. I don't know if you've seen it.
Speaker 2:It's like a Thera ice, I'm cheap.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, there's this one that goes actually around your whole face, and they say that that's more beneficial than actually jumping, because your nervous system and everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll send it to you. Oh, Nick is not going to be happy with it.
Speaker 1:That way you can, because you put it in the freezer oh, don't you take it out and then, boom, you put it on your face.
Speaker 2:You can do it while you're meditating.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that'd be great, instead of like I can't breathe it's hard because I feel like you get water in your nose.
Speaker 2:If you've ever done it before you do.
Speaker 1:It's not easy. You're like breathing. What the hell is going on?
Speaker 2:But it's a good start for the day.
Speaker 1:It is a great start. Yeah, I believe in cold baths, not only for its physiology things that it does for you, but just-.
Speaker 2:I really want one of those ice plunges.
Speaker 1:I have one, an ice one, or the cheap one, the tin one. No, I have like a we call it the pod. It's like a little inflatable one, which is cool, but I need to get the filter. That's where the money's at. The filter, yeah, because it keeps it cold. You have to keep it plugged in.
Speaker 2:Is that the one? You just add ice. That's the one I have, no one's. You just add ice. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:That's the one I have. I know you wake up as well as I do and everybody else in this world sometimes not driven, not wanting to go to the gym, not wanting to do this or do that or deal with this, wanting to eat frozen yogurt yeah, not wanting to sacrifice certain things? Right, because what do you tell yourself and what's the advice you would give somebody? To stay driven and stay focused.
Speaker 2:Well, right now, it's because you're going to be naked on stage. So that's really the thing. That's a good one. I'm all. Oh no, I think the days that I wake up and I'm tired, I just like force myself to get up and go. Sometimes it's just like let me just get in the car. Once you're in the car and you're driving over there, it's like you have to get up and go like.
Speaker 2:Damien has to go to school, so I have to get up. He's got to go to school and I would remember the days that I would come before I was working out and we were just working on his stuff. I'd come home and I'd be exhausted, like I wasn't doing anything and I was so tired already, so I would drop him off. I'd come home, I would just rack out and sleep because I was so mentally just gassed and then I would wake up and be like I didn't do anything. Today I've literally done nothing. I didn't help him, I didn't help myself, I didn't help anyone. So now it's just.
Speaker 2:You know, I'm a creature of habit and I love routine. I thrive in routine. I think it's very good for anyone to have a routine, whatever it may be to push yourself. So now it's just a get up and go, and once I'm there, you walk in the door and, like you get such a great greeting, I'm like, oh shit, all right, fine yeah, I get on the treadmill, you know yeah it's just you just force yourself you just sometimes have to get up and do it you have to battle that other, that other voice.
Speaker 1:It's like you do, you're comfortable. It's cold outside, you know it is.
Speaker 2:it's hard when it's like this, because it's true they say you know seattle's what the highest suicide rate because it's like this all the time there and it makes sense to me. But I think I know now and I've learned now over these last couple years how much it feeds me when I am there that I just remind myself, like in 20 minutes you're going to be over this shit, so just get there, go work out and like, smile and you do, and it honestly changes the rest of my day. Like damn, at least I did something, at least, even if it's just cardio. Like at least I went and just did cardio today, yeah, and like, okay, I can reset myself and now I can have a good day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, now I can have a good day. What do you miss the most, like you know, when you're not-.
Speaker 2:Food-wise yeah, food, exactly. Oh, yeah, malibu, I do zima, I and a lot of zima. No, no, I. It's not that I drink a lot, but my husband do a date night every week. Yeah, it's something that, when we were struggling through our stuff, we really like set into place. And it's very good to like reset yourself with your spouse, because everyone's on different tracks. Like he has a lot of you know, like it's a lot of work for them, it's a lot of pressure for them. The environment's a lot of pressure for them, the environment that they're in. Not only is it heavy and people are not happy with you all the time he's. You're trying to deal with that with like a good attitude. Having people yell at you, cuss you, throw bottles of whatever at you, it's exhausting. And how do you turn that off and come home? You know it's heavy for him?
Speaker 1:Is he on patrol? He is, yeah. He's been there for about seven years, goodness gracious. Seven years, that's good time on patrol it is.
Speaker 2:it's a long time change though it does, it's changed a lot, for sure. It's definitely changed a lot, I'm sure, since you've been there, it's changed a lot.
Speaker 1:I came before I left, right before cameras. Good for you. Yeah, I'm out.
Speaker 2:See you later no, but it's, it's heavy for them. And then you, you're dealing with different personalities, personalities. So we do like a date night, we do like to go out and do those things. So I like a cocktail when I go out. I like a frozen yogurt yeah, I like anything. I like all the snacks yeah.
Speaker 1:But you stay committed. Obviously at times you do. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:Well, a good majority of the time during this process, you'll get a cheat meal or a cheat thing. So you just look forward to that and like in my mind. I'm like, okay, I'm going to weigh in today.
Speaker 1:And you earned it Exactly.
Speaker 2:You did earn it right Like I didn't eat fish and asparagus for a week, so I couldn't have this damn frozen yogurt. I want this frozen yogurt. Shout out to 21 Choices in Claremont.
Speaker 1:Amazing. There you go 21,.
Speaker 2:No, oh, don't go. No, don't go, I'll get addicted. It is so damn good. All right, it is so good.
Speaker 1:You're going to have to send me that.
Speaker 2:I will.
Speaker 1:Um. Does your husband? He works out, he does Okay.
Speaker 2:He works out uh, just that, choose, or 21 fit, 21 hour fitness. I don't even know 24 hours. Yeah, he likes it. He works out by himself. Um, I think it's just a good space for him to be in. I don't think if we worked out together it would be all that great. Even though I always try to get him to do hikes and stuff like that with me, he's a typical guy where he just wants to work out all the weights.
Speaker 1:My wife and I used to do some stuff together, but it's better separate. It is, and it's got there about two weeks ago and her schedule's been all over the place. Okay, anyways, I was doing this 4x4x48, which is four miles every four hours, for 48 hours, and I just did that this last weekend, and the hardest time for me was I'm tired for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, was 12 midnight and 4 in the morning, okay. So 12 midnight I didn't really sleep, okay. So I'm like all right, I got to go run, it's cold, it was cold, obviously, and then the 4 o'clock in the morning. Now I'm tired, I try to get some sleep and I'm up and I'm like oh no. But she joined me on those two times. Oh, she did, she did. Oh, look at her and not, but it was working out.
Speaker 2:You need that, we needed that. I think every relationship needs that, where you have that time where it's just you and him, or just you and her. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right, sorry, it's okay.
Speaker 2:But it's always the most, I think, even if it's 20 or 30 minutes, where you guys aren't on your phones, you're just sitting there, you're just talking about whatever it may be. It's that connection that you have, because relations are very difficult, especially in this industry, and working where he works and working where he works, it's difficult. There's a lot of things that are thrown at you. There's women, men, attitude, all this stuff at one time. It's a hodgepodge of bullshit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think Monique said it best earlier Everything that is worthwhile takes work.
Speaker 2:It does, you know it does, and it's not always going to be perfect.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and, like you said, we put ourselves on this island of like why is my relationship? Well, everybody's relationship got problems, you know you. Why is my relationship? Well, everybody's relationship got problems, you know you're not the only one.
Speaker 2:No, it's not. It's not an Instagram worthy life Like. I feel like the people that you're most connected to are the ones that are going to be honest with you, like, yes, my life is shit right now.
Speaker 2:I don't, I can't tell my husband, he can't tell me, yeah, like it's OK, but it is OK because that's, and work through the daisies. And I think you learn most from those moments in life where you really struggle, like the moments that I think me and Nick have really had that have been hardest financially, anything like that. Those are the moments that I think we've had the most respect for each other, because you see, like the other one's willing to grind for you right, like I'm willing to pick you up when you're having a shit day. It's okay if you're having a horrible time at work, let's meal prep you.
Speaker 1:And make sure that everything you have when you're there is easy so you can focus on this trainee that you want to kill. Oh, he's a training officer, he is. Oh shit, he is. He is there you go. I know that's the hard part, so all his patience is gone by the time he gets home. Trust me, I had some trainees. It is one of the I was, but being a police officer on patrol is the hardest job. It is the funnest job, but you cannot have an off day.
Speaker 2:You don't get the luxury of that you have to have your head on a swivel.
Speaker 1:And especially now, because everyone is watching you Right there, you pull out of the station, or you just get to work and boom, there's a shooting. Or you get out of the station and something's happening right outside the station. You don't know what's going to happen and you have to react and use your training.
Speaker 2:And be perfect. You have to be perfect in that moment.
Speaker 1:And then it's like next thing you know there's a baby that can't breathe in your arms. You're holding somebody that's bleeding on you. You're dealing with a guy with a knife. The guy pulled a gun on you. You don't know.
Speaker 2:You're in a pursuit, you don't know what you're walking into. If you pull someone over, you guys don't know what you're walking into. You never do yeah.
Speaker 1:It's crazy it is mentally exhausting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's mentally exhausting for you, you know your spouse wants the best of you, right Like I want him to be sunshine. I want to hear about his day, Tell me about this, Tell me about that, and all he wants to do is be like shit. Give me 20 minutes to just like please decompress. And it's hard to learn and find that balance. It takes time.
Speaker 1:It does, it takes time, it does.
Speaker 2:We're still learning.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's you, obviously. What would you tell yourself, like your younger self? What kind of advice would you give?
Speaker 2:yourself or tell yourself that you've learned.
Speaker 2:It's so cliche, but really just to trust your instincts and trust your gut. I think for the longest time you question things. You just ruminate on things. When you're younger, like you question your thoughts Like normally. For me, my gut reaction and instinct is right and I think for most people, like what comes to you naturally is what's right for you. So just go with that, go with your gut, go with, go with your instinct and really just kind of be comfortable with the choices that you make. We're all going to F up and make not the right decision, but I think those are what you learn from. I think I questioned myself so much when I was younger about like should I do this? Should I be with this person? Should I do that, should it look like this? And you put so much pressure to just be perfect that it's okay to not be like, just go with with what you feel and like you kind of just navigate life that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, do you think that's also like a woman thing sometimes? Oh, a hundred percent it is we question everything.
Speaker 2:Not only do we question things. I think there's so much pressure on us, especially nowadays, to be perfect, right, like it is a. We are a visual society. Right, we're stuck on Instagram.
Speaker 1:Especially males are very visual too. You guys are visual creatures, a hundred percent of the time like we could have, real interesting conversations, that's another podcast.
Speaker 2:But it's you, I think. You're just wanting everything to be perfect. You want to look perfect, your body needs to look like this. You need to walk around, you need to be sunshine like and it's hard to constantly feel like that and not let it like just start to weigh on you after a while, yeah, so yeah, I mean, it's hard and, and in saying that, obviously then you joined the sheriff's department, which is male dominated.
Speaker 1:How did that? How did that? How did you feel? And like, when you got there, did you feel intimidated? I think I was by by, like coworkers, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, it's a. I think it's a double-edged sword working there. As a woman, right, it's difficult to feel the pressure of wanting to make sure that you prove yourself as like a partner and that you're willing to like do all of the work, and then this might not be a very popular opinion, but it's mine. I think that everyone has strengths. Right, we all have strengths and weaknesses. I'm not going to go and buck some 306 foot four dude and start cursing at him and yelling at him and then turn around and look behind me and be like, well, you're going to handle this because I slung all this attitude at this guy.
Speaker 1:But it happens a lot.
Speaker 2:I feel like my strength might be like hey, you ready to go to court, friend? Like it's fine, no big deal, yes, I get it, it's, it's delivery. And like you use your, you use what your verbal judo Exactly A hundred percent, and that's. That's just how I went in with it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, my, my, uh. Some of my best partners were female and, um, you know, coming from century which, the old Firestone station and Linwood and whatnot.
Speaker 2:You're just going to give yourself shout-outs all day long. Of course, all day yeah.
Speaker 1:Century 21 shout-out.
Speaker 2:Sorry, nick, at Costco too I tried Nick.
Speaker 1:I tried, nick, that's our sister station. We're good, you know, we're good with company. Definitely them and Lennox, yo Lennox, south LA. Now, where was I going, oh?
Speaker 2:I had female partners, exactly.
Speaker 1:But sometimes the men I know obviously from coming from there, will have this dumb attitude about females and they can't handle their own weight or do this and do that, and I had nothing but respect for females. We need them. We need more because there's too much ego at least when I was working that you get yourself into trouble and women know how to handle shit.
Speaker 2:It changes Now, you can't.
Speaker 1:Back then, even back then, we were just coming out of like you could still search a woman, but you had to search her like this, and then it kind of switched where you couldn't anymore.
Speaker 2:And why would you want to? You're putting yourself in such a shit situation, right?
Speaker 1:now, and women are carrying the dope and the guns are carrying the dope and the guns, and they're putting it everywhere Because they know. Right, and you know what I'm saying. I'm like what in the hell? Where did that come from? But they're very needed and there needs to be more women on the department and in every first responder position, from firefighting to everywhere, and I know that a lot of females I mean my wife was my trainee, she was my trainee, you know.
Speaker 2:Oh goodness, Look at you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I wasn't going to let her go get off training until we got a date. Look at us now.
Speaker 2:Look at you now. Look at us now. She's going to kill you after this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly. Well, she could get away with it. She's a homicide detective.
Speaker 2:Exactly. Don't say that she would know how to get away with it. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:But anyways, but it could be intimidating, and in the gym it could be intimidating, it is. So what would you give advice to for a woman going into a gym, whether it be ATF or like LA Fitness or something?
Speaker 2:How do you?
Speaker 1:choose the right, proper gym.
Speaker 2:I think going into well one, it's just you have to just go in, right, like you're going to walk into a gym, and I think you'll feel it. And if you are in a position where you can work out at work or work out on duty which I think 100%, they should be able to do that. But going in, I think you need to go in with a plan, right. If you just go in and you're like I'm just going to do this, I'm just going to do that, it, it can be overwhelming and intimidating, especially like doing weights. I was. I had no idea what I was doing. When it came to like weightlifting at all, that's, I was like I need someone to guide me you. But even if you don't have those resources or the financial wherewithal to be able to do that, because it's expensive.
Speaker 2:There's so many avenues and things you can look at, like. There's so much stuff on Pinterest, on Instagram, and you can just like go along and follow those Start slow.
Speaker 2:Be like give yourself a plan of attack. Say, okay, monday, wednesday, fridays, I'm going to do legs, I'm going to do these workouts and I'm going to do 20 minutes of cardio. Great, because if you walk in with a plan, it's easy to attack that plan right and you can execute it because you got A, b, c, d. If you don't have anything and you're in there, you'll be like wandering around looking at shit, following someone else trying to do what they're doing and you don't. One, you don't feel like you got a good workout. And two, you kind of feel like, well, do I want to go do that again?
Speaker 1:like that was not fun, like you want it to go be fun because it's supposed to be hard yeah, so no, that's that's great advice, because, yeah, you do need a plan, you need something to be like this is what I'm going to conquer, this is what I'm going to do, and do the research.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Right, we have phones, like we can take it there, we can actually look. And then, if we don't know what a sumo squat is or whatever, you look it up and you're like that's what I'm going to do and I'm just going to go in and do my own thing. I do that shit myself.
Speaker 2:So I'll look on Pinterest and like and I just screenshot them, like with the girl doing the workout or whatever she's doing, and then I can just scroll through really quickly and look and be like, okay, this is what I'm going to do next and you're good to go. It really does help having that plan I think for anyone one and it's it kind of takes the weight off trying to figure out what you're going to do when you get there, right, and not knowing, like, should I touch this shit? No, I'm going to do this, I'm going to go there, I'm going to do that, I'm going to knock this shit out and then off I go.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So yeah, I mean like, and you're right, Not everybody has the financial means to afford a trainer. Right, right, little bit cheaper. You meet some people, whatnot, so that's a good option as well. And not only that once you start going to the gym, you'll meet people. You'll meet people and you'll see somebody doing something. You're like go ask them hey, what is that? Where does that work?
Speaker 2:There truly is a gym culture, I think, and I see it all the time on Pinterest and I love it, and I love it.
Speaker 2:Or Instagram, Whatever One of those social media things that the kids watch nowadays TikTok, yeah, tiktok, right, you see these girls lifting this heavy weight and people come up behind them. Just help them out. So it's not. I think a lot of the time people go and they think they're at the gym and someone's going to come, try to talk to you or be this, this, that and the other. But a good majority of my experiences, at least, have been super positive with people being like hey, could you tell me? Like, why you're doing that? Sorry to interrupt you. Or this, this, that and the other, or like what do you do for this? I like, like you look so great doing this, this, that and the other, and I've done the same thing.
Speaker 2:It's not comfortable and easy to put yourself out there to ask someone maybe advice, but I think sometimes that's when you get the best advice, when you can talk to someone and be like not to interrupt you but you like this is great. Is there a reason why you're doing these weights or the lunges this way or this? Is that and the other? And it'll start to kind of like build that rapport with someone. It doesn't mean you're hitting on me or I'm hitting on you. It means like we're just learning from each other.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so yeah. No, let's debunk some of these myths, right. One of them would be exactly that, like you think that somebody comes and asks you something, they're hitting on me.
Speaker 2:Of course, they're instantly hitting on you, right, yeah, I?
Speaker 1:just had this. I went to Gold's Gym and I couldn't get this machine to move the seat like move it up and down. Okay, and I'm looking, trying to read the instructions.
Speaker 2:I'm like it's like a Rubik's Cube. Oh my God, they really are.
Speaker 1:I'm like what the hell is going on. So I saw that this girl was on and just got off the machine and she was right next to me and I'm like she's been looking at me, hasn't said shit. I said, excuse me, ma'am, she's got her headset on and I don't want to bother her, of course. And then we just kind of talk like, oh, I love that machine. Oh yeah, okay, cool hey nice seeing you here, see you later.
Speaker 2:That was it. All I needed help was with this Very basic, and it was cool, she took it totally great.
Speaker 1:I'm just like shit. I hope she doesn't think this. No, but it's one of those things that it's male, female would be. Oh, you want to get lean and you want to lose weight. Don't eat, no Right.
Speaker 2:I eat more now. My mom laughs, so when I did the first conversation, she's-.
Speaker 1:Don't eat carbs. She was like don't get too skinny.
Speaker 2:Don't do this, I don't want you to look like that. And I'm like mom and when I sent her my meal plan, she's like you're going to eat this every day. I like every day. There's just meal after meal after meal. Your body does. It's weird the more that I ate, the more I woke up hungry so I would be like, damn, I'm eating fish and this and that, or ground turkey or whatever it may be. It's your body starts to fuel itself and I remember woke up. I woke up covered in sweat the first couple weeks because I was like shit, what am I doing?
Speaker 1:oh, your metabolism, it's fire, it is cranking, especially like the last couple weeks, like my husband will was like shit. What am I?
Speaker 2:doing? Oh, your metabolism is on fire. It is cranking, especially like the last couple of weeks. Like my husband will laugh, Like he's like, what are you doing? I'm like I have to change my shirt.
Speaker 1:I'm like I'm covered in sweat. He's like, oh my God, amber.
Speaker 2:But it's. It's kind of like a it's a great feeling, cause you're like now is stuffing my face drinking protein shakes. I really do believe in a protein shake right before bed. I know a lot of people go back and forth with it, but for me, do you what kind of protein I do? I love. I just found these things. They're called slate proteins. They're the ones that are in the the can. They're like vegan and but is it?
Speaker 1:way, way protein uh, I think they are away okay, I'm gonna like a good casein um, do you? Yeah, it's a slow release.
Speaker 2:For me. I have to be careful because I think most women really bloat when you take protein and you feel like shit, like you feel full the entire time. These are the first ones I've had that I've been able to take at night 20 grams of protein, only 100 calories, and it's like four carbs. It's nothing, but I see such a difference in my muscle mass already, even just doing that the last three weeks.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I kind of got off that track recently, but when I was doing all these events as well, casein protein at night fills me. Okay, a slow release. I'm sleeping, I'm sweating, I'm like Jesus Christ, it's nuts, right, I wake up lean but powerful. But I like the casein and it has to be hydrolyzed or it has to be something that's broken down, so my body's not trying to break it down. It's kind of absorbable more.
Speaker 2:Do you eat in the morning before you work out? Oh, yeah. Okay, see, I don't eat yeah.
Speaker 1:Like I'm one of those people that I can't eat breakfast in the depends what I'm doing. Sometimes I'll do a fasted run, but if it's intensity so if I'm like trying to burn fat, then I'll do a slow tempo run or recovery run, but if it's like, hey, I'm going to hit the weights and do intensity runs and whatnot, then no, I feel my body. Cause I feel like I'll tap into my muscle. You know my glycogen level, that's stored there. I feel like like I'll waste it really quick.
Speaker 2:I feel nauseous. So I know a lot of people have to eat before. But if I eat and then go lift weights I end up feeling like I'm dragging and I feel nauseous.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm just one of those people that can't eat.
Speaker 1:Well, maybe you're not letting it digest, maybe, like, if you're like having it right before it but you're also trying to get a workout. It's like hey what are we doing here? Yeah, so like when I go on a long run and you have to eat because you're burning all these calories, and, um, I eat, but while I'm running I walk, okay, trying to let it do what it's doing, so then it takes.
Speaker 2:It takes a while you know, it's that run, that sprint. I remember when I was trying to lose weight I used to laugh, laugh. This guy Latona I used to work with. He sends me stuff all the time about running and walking. Running and walking Because we would be there like sprint and then walk, sprint and then walk Because you'd want to move your heart rate. Yeah, and sure as shit. Yeah, if you want to lose weight, that's really where it's at, yeah 100%, especially as a woman.
Speaker 1:Those are the myths there. So eat more and carbs. Everybody gives carbs a bad name.
Speaker 2:No, I really do a lot. I eat oats. I love the oats. Oats and brown rice are great. Don't get me wrong. Of course, I want to eat pasta. For sure, those are the things that I want to eat.
Speaker 1:There's a healthier way to eat pasta, too. There is a healthier way to eat pasta.
Speaker 2:Zucchini balance. I think in life with anything, it's finding that balance as to like what you're going to eat, from what you're going to eat, to like what you're going to drink, what you're going to do and what you're going to say yes to. I think later in life I've realized that, like it's okay to say no to things which are hard Cause, like, as much as I'm a control freak, I am a people pleaser too, and I, especially the people in my pocket, like those, are the ones that I want to do the most for, and sometimes you put too much on your plate and it's overwhelming because you're constantly saying yes, yes, I'll do this, yes, we'll host that, yes, we'll have this, yes, we'll do that. But then everyone gets like a third when they should really be getting a hundred percent of my attention. And the people in my pocket my husband, my son, my mom, my, my close friends from the gym those are the people that I feel like deserve a hundred percent of my energy. And you have to say no to others and that's okay.
Speaker 1:That's okay. It is okay to say yes to everybody.
Speaker 2:You do, but it's hard to say no, cause if someone comes and asks you to do something and you say no, it doesn't always land like no, because I don't want to, it's not. Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's not yeah, it's not, but you have to Speaking about that. Who are some of the people that you look up to, who are some of the people that have guided you to where you're at now and you respect and you look towards that and you trust that they're in your corner, they're in your pocket.
Speaker 2:My mom for sure. She is my ride or die.
Speaker 1:What's your mom's name? Her name is. Pamela Sue Marasco Shout out to her Pamela Pamela Sue. Pamela Sue Marasco Marasco oh, that's a nice name.
Speaker 2:Yes, she's wonderful and she's been, I think, really just a guiding force in my life. That's showed me it's okay to just be yourself, it's okay to have a bad day, but you're not going to sit in that pocket. And that's something I learned from her. And even and that's something I learned from her and she even when I was younger, even when my dad passed, she was like it's okay for us to have a bad day. We're all allowed to have a bad day. This is shit and it sucks, but we're not going to wake up every day and be like pity us.
Speaker 2:So, take that day. She always said take that day. You need to lie in bed today. Take it. You need to cry all day. Take it, panties on and you're going to be a big girl and you're just going to go and we're going to deal with it.
Speaker 2:Because it's life and every you never know what people are struggling with, correct, you don't. So it's. I think for me that's. The biggest thing that she taught me was to just like, be resilient. You know, really have faith in yourself, really push through. And when I told her I was going to do this, of course she gave me shit about the eating, but she's been a hundred percent there. She made t-shirts for me, like she's just who I call if I need anything in life. So, of course, her, yes, my husband, he's been very supportive. He's just, he's more like a quiet support where he doesn't need to be. You know yelling or cheering in my corner, but he's always like you're going to do this, you're going to fucking crucify, crucify this, sorry, yeah, no, you're good, you're good. He's like just have confidence in yourself, right, like I remember I got off stage and he has never-.
Speaker 1:You think you lacked some confidence before?
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, a hundred percent. I think I questioned everything about myself, just because I don't know. I think we just do that. As Did you gain it?
Speaker 1:from from working out, I did yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think that a lot of the things that I was struggling with, like mentally not feeling just there I don't know how else to say it- Like I just felt foggy because I just was.
Speaker 2:I had so many things moving, so many things that I was trying to like fill everything else, that I just couldn't figure out how to get myself out of that funk. And when I started working out, it was it gave me that like reset and it like reset my brain, it reset who I was, and then I started to feel so much more like myself. And the more that I felt like myself, I think, the more that like it attracted positive people.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to talk to yes, for sure, we talked about that a little bit before.
Speaker 2:Um, so he's. He's very quietly supportive. If anyone who's ever met him will know that he's not the talker in our relationship for sure, but he gave me the biggest hug when I came off stage. I've never felt a hug like that before in my life and it was just like so much support. He was so proud of me and it was. It just felt so good to see that. So he I for sure know that he writes for me. My son pushes me a lot he's. He struggles with you know we talked a little bit about that, like the behavioral stuff and the ADHD and those things. However, I've never been around someone who has to work as hard as he does to do the typical things in life right the reading, the writing, the social skills he inspires you, he drives you A hundred percent.
Speaker 2:He does like that kid is he works harder than anyone you'll ever meet in your life just to have like a typical day. So when I see him and he's struggling and he pushes through, it's like the light, it like feeds my fire just when he has something minimal that he does. I remember he struggled eating when he was younger and my mom we took him to McDonald's one day and he finally had McDonald's. We were sitting in McDonald's crying. These people were looking at us like we were idiots because he was eating chicken nuggets, because he had finally like just relaxed a little bit and was like trustworthy enough to like try something new. It was such a great feeling. It's like the little things the little things.
Speaker 2:It is the tiniest things in life, that like feed your fire, yeah, um. When it comes to fitness, I think I got very lucky with Mark and Arlene. Very very lucky with them. Um, they're just really positive people and they're very. They want everyone to succeed as much as they want to succeed.
Speaker 2:And that you want that right. Like you want to be around someone who's like pushing themselves constantly but also knows when to take a step back and tell you when it's time for you to be focused on and you to do this and you to be the person that you need to be, and that's okay, like it's. It's just been for me they're. They're great. I mean, like I said, arlene is 62 years old. She is always sunshine, she's always in a good mood and she always is like hyping people up. Like who doesn't want to go be gassed up at the gym? Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1:Exactly, I want to walk in and be like, hey, you look great, like okay, she has a purpose. Thank you. Obviously, it seems with their heart and they do Of help, of serve, of service, of like I want to help you be the best version of yourself. Yes, and it shows, because I've heard really really good things about them, so that's awesome it is. That's inspiring.
Speaker 2:I think the one thing I do want to say the women that are in there, the girls that I work out with they're not not all of them do this fitness competition stuff, but they work so hard and being around people that have such a great attitude and are so supportive of you, those are the people that inspire you.
Speaker 2:Because these women have kids, they have jobs, they have life, they have all these other things going on and they all come in and they've all got a great attitude. They all give you a hug, they all give you a hug, they all give you a slap on the ass and tell you it's going to be a great day, like, let's go work out, let's do this, that's who you want to be around. That, to me, is what inspires me the most. Not not to say that these people that are fitness influencers are not like incredible humans. They are, but the, the normal people that I'm working out with on a day-to-day basis. Those are the people that inspire me to like keep going and to like be there. It's for me, that's what I need.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you want to mention any names. Oh, all of them.
Speaker 2:Lily Tish. Of course Monique, even though she's going to do her own podcast.
Speaker 1:Arlene.
Speaker 2:Mark, you know, shallon, megan, all those girls, I love them all.
Speaker 1:I love them all. I love them all. Yeah, you're right. I mean, it's real. They're real. Yes, they're real people with real families, with real things going on every day. Yes, and yet they're out there, grinding, investing in themselves.
Speaker 2:Yes, and not only that, pouring love into yourself and helping you and having a great attitude while they do it. Those are the people that inspire you 100% yes.
Speaker 1:Do you have like a favorite quote or like a creed or some way you live, like a mantra that you kind of just go like? This is me. You know, if I, if I die, I want to put this in my tombstone.
Speaker 2:This is, this describes me, or something like that you know we talked a little bit about this. I just really feel like it's you get what you give In life. I want to be that person that, like there's no, is she really like that or not like that? I think some of the best advice that I gave myself and that I would give myself and to other people is don't put parameters on your fitness. So don't, don't set yourself up for failure.
Speaker 2:I think sometimes if we give ourselves like too many goals or too big of goals like I'm going to lose 30 pounds Like you focus only on that. It's just a lifestyle. It really is like how you have to commit in life and, yes, there's always going to be like moments where we we falter, we don't do those things. But I think if you set many goals and like don't say I'm just doing this to lose weight, because if you say that you're going to shift back, it's naturally going to shift back. It's naturally going to shift back. You're naturally going to gain the weight back Don't set yourself up for failure. Really, just allow yourself to be like listen, this is the life that I'm going to live. I'm going to work out, I'm going to eat healthy a good majority of the time I'm going to drink water and all those other things I think are going to fall into place.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this is a lifestyle. This isn't a weight loss challenge A 30, 60, 90-day weight loss, exactly, and I think, when you do that.
Speaker 2:It makes it more difficult to actually be invested in it, because you're like, okay, these six weeks I'm going to kill myself, and then after that you fall off the bandwagon and you're just eating pizza and french fries all day long.
Speaker 1:It doesn't work like that, and you know what. The number one thing anybody should be investing in themselves anyways is in their mind yes, Like mind, yes, like that comes first.
Speaker 2:Because it's so hard?
Speaker 1:though, right, it's so hard because you focus so much on the physicality, yeah, but if you do that first, everything else kind of falls into place. You know, we talked about I talked about like visionary, like seeing myself through it All these races, they're all mental.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:They're all one step at a time. Physically I'm I mean, I'm shaved yes, blisters, you know what I'm saying Like I've lost 10 pounds during this race. I've done a 24, 29-hour race. That's crazy. I just did a 4x4x48. So these things that I put myself intentionally I know they're not fun, they're not fun, they don't. But they're rewarding right.
Speaker 1:I'm sure they. It doesn't sound fun to on peak week, you know. Sacrifice yourself and stay so disciplined and not have what you want and say no to people that are inviting you Peak weeks, all weeks, yeah exactly, and then waking up every time that you don't, you know, and all that, but the journey is a process.
Speaker 2:That's where you live and that day you go you feel if you've put in the time, you go and you feel so confident. I remember being there and like I had put in all this time, all this effort. And I remember getting on stage and I was like I'm not nervous at all.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like legit, not nervous to be on stage. I was like a little show pony up there. I loved it and it was only because I knew like every single thing that they told me to do to eat, how. When Jen would tell me don't do this chest up this way, that way, do these things. It all hit me when I was up there and I was like, fine, I'm, I've done all the hard work, like now we're just here because when you get to that point, all of these women are tens, they all look amazing, everyone's killing themselves up there and up there, for whatever reason it's, you're literally in a competition with yourself. It's so cliche, but so true.
Speaker 1:You're there to beat yourself, yeah, so um, yeah, you have to invest in the mind, body and soul. People just go on the read books all the time, okay, but what are you doing with that? You have all this knowledge, everything, but are you actually doing what the book is telling you to do? If you're, if you're using like a self-help book or something, or I go to the gym all the time, but you're fucked. Yeah, yeah, but yeah, or you fucked up in the head yeah, you know, and you got to get right Because that's super important.
Speaker 2:And it's the only way that everything's going to piece together 100. Is by having all three of those pieces. Sorry, my stomach is growing, it's okay.
Speaker 1:Was that your stomach? Yes, I thought it was a phone. I thought it was like vibrating phone. It was not Okay. Listen, it's telling me it's time to eat okay, that's how. You know, your body knows, there you go.
Speaker 2:But you have to have all those pieces because if you don't, things are going to lack. You have to be able to mentally push yourself through things and sometimes, when you don't have that mental push, you have the physicality to be able to do it and all those other things.
Speaker 1:The book, the Little Black Book of fitness that I gifted you. Yes, that says and my stickers.
Speaker 2:Thank you and your stickers.
Speaker 1:It says about mind, body and soul warriors. And it really is also about the soul, like feeding yourself the little things of, like the cheat meals and night out with this, and enjoying and letting loose and not being so strict at times. Balance, balance, balance, balance. Yes, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's hard to figure out balance, because everyone's balance, I think, is different. Yeah, like, what's what's going to work for you, for you and your wife, for you and your kids? It's night and day different. That's going to work for me. So I think it is. It's constantly trial and error, like even with the fitness stuff. It's trial and error, like how is your body going to react to these things? Are you going to All of those things? It's just but once you find that rhythm, you're good.
Speaker 1:Yes, oh, my God. I told you my body it lets me know it's dialed in right now. Yes, it is, it's like 10 minutes late.
Speaker 1:It's like excuse me pardon me, yeah, what do you say to those people right now? We're almost finishing up here, but I know we live in a meet and in a world right now with social media and instant gratification gratification but also at our fingertips, we can get information. Yeah, and we talked about it earlier, about like wanting to look a certain way or wanting to do this Like. What do you tell people Like when they're feeling depressed or looking at something like an Instagram story or or these influencers? Then they're feeling depressed, or looking at something like an instagram story or or these influencers then they're trying to compare themselves, like how not to compare?
Speaker 2:you, you can't, you just can't do it. You have. It's so difficult to not. I do it every single day, every day. I'm like on there looking at other people and you, you fall into this like rabbit hole of like damn, why don't I look like that and she's doing this and why can't I look like? Think you have to realize that, like as a woman especially like you get to a certain point in your life where, like your, your body's going to be what your body is going to be.
Speaker 2:You are who you are and, yes, you can tweak all those things, but it's making who you are the best that you can be for yourself, not saying I'm going to look at you know this Olympian who is phenomenal, like, how come I don't look like that? It's, you can look like that, but just, it's all in your own timing, right. Like it's making sure that you look at yourself and say, okay, I want to be the best version of me. How do I get to that? How do I get to the best version of me? Not the best version of her, not the best version of him, not the prettiest girl, not this filter or that filter, because everything is filtered, even my pictures. Shockingly enough. Shockingly enough.
Speaker 1:Shockingly enough, but people compare themselves to you. I mean you, monique, and people that are on there. I'm serious, you know You're like holy shit. Look at that. You know what I try to do is well, when I first got in this industry and left the sheriff's department, I said to myself I'm not a young buck anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I have to find my own road, my own lane. It's hard.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's hard right, and I go okay. So what am I going to do?
Speaker 1:What am I going to do? What's going to be my I guess my selling point, or what do I bring to the table? And I said, well, I'm going to do hard shit, I'm going to literally put myself in hard shit, and one of the things is I don't have the body of a runner, a lean, you know, 120 pound runner that runs 26 miles.
Speaker 2:That's so funny. That's a lot for me.
Speaker 1:It is, you know, to carry muscle, to have big old legs and to run. So I said, well, that's what I'm going to do, because what comes easy is like the crossfitting stuff or the high rocks.
Speaker 2:Because that's what your body body's built for right it's built for like speed and power you know. So when you do something opposite, it's correct.
Speaker 1:And so I put myself there right and uh you have to give yourself many challenges.
Speaker 2:I think for myself, small challenges, small steps were like an easy road back into fitness. So even when, after I had that panic attack and kind of got back into everything as much as I was like, yeah, I want to go do a competition, I knew like your body is nowhere near what it needs to be to get there, you have to be patient with yourself and give yourself grace, and I think, as women, we don't give ourself grace because you look at someone else and you're like, damn, she's amazing, she has beautiful skin, she has this, whatever. Whatever your insecurity is like, you pick that out, of course, but being able to sit back and be like no, like it's okay to be who I am at this point in my life. It's okay to be 40 and not look like a 20 year old anymore, like I want to look like myself in the best version of myself. How do I get to that? What do I need to do? Is it eating? Is it, you know, whatever it may be? Is working out cardio, whatever it may be to like get that and I think, mentally, once you start to be I don't know how to say it like just peace like yeah, at peace with yourself, yeah then that's when shit starts to actually come in and grow, because I feel like the ones I finally accepted myself is when all this other shit started coming in it's when I'm
Speaker 2:at prime. It's when I started doing the competitions and you attract a different group of people and it kind of just like you like level up. You're like damn, this girl owns her own business and this, that and the other, and she's in here like killing it every day and still looks like a 10. Like I want in on that. I want to do that.
Speaker 1:I feel like when my transformation occurred. Well, first of all, my dad passed away for like six months, you know, with alcohol trying to numb the pain, all this stuff.
Speaker 2:I feel you.
Speaker 1:And then I didn't drink for a year. Fuck that, do this, do that, and I became what I use as clear. Okay, I became clear in my purpose, clear in my mind, at peace, and boom, my business changed. I changed my purpose, changed Everything my people, my circle. It was like holy shit everything, my people, my circle.
Speaker 2:It was like holy shit, I never knew I could be this happy.
Speaker 1:It's like you open the door and it all comes in, but we're so scared to open that door. And how I got there was exactly what you do Meditation Super hard to do and just be at peace and be present and just be silent and it'll come. It'll come to you.
Speaker 2:Especially someone who talks as much as me, it's very difficult to be quiet for five minutes.
Speaker 1:Your mind's like come on, it is Say something. That's why I feel my son so much. I'm like I get your ADHD, I get it.
Speaker 2:But if you can do it, it's like those three minutes of silence where you get the most clarity in your day, yeah, and then you reset your day and you a fresh start and it's just, it's a good day. Like who, I want to have a good day all the time. I had enough bad days.
Speaker 1:Everyone has. Yeah, I'm too old to have bad days.
Speaker 2:No more bad days, no more drinking ourselves for a year.
Speaker 1:Yeah, only on the golf course a little bit. That's fine, no judgment Bad day at the golf course, better day at work. I used to work, say that, yeah, um, did we talk about? If you had a favorite quote that we, we did that out. Okay, and credo and what's on your two songs, kind of okay, um, is there anything you want to add here that we didn't talk about? Anybody you want to give a shout out to, or um, I think I've gassed my family up enough yeah, right, exactly, that's enough I honestly I love.
Speaker 2:I'm really grateful for prime and his wife. Him and nicole have been wonderful for to me and for nothing Like they've asked nothing of me, so I'm grateful for them for setting all this up and being.
Speaker 1:I thought somebody was coming through the front door that's her stomach. People still Just hungry saying could we finish this? I'm hungry, I'm trying to gain muscle, you're good.
Speaker 2:But my mom, my husband and my son, those are my people, that's my pocket of support, son. Those, those are my people, those are my. That's my pocket of support and, like those are, those are the people that I think I keep close. I have great, great in-laws. I have wonderful friends and family that that came and supported me through this and just have like checked in on me. Um, I have a wonderful friend, britney, and she's just anytime that I've gone through some shit, she's been there to to support me and just like give me a hug. So sometimes you just need someone. You can like text Her, gloria, I can text them and just be like listen, I'm having a shitty day and they're like you know what I'm having a shitty day too. I'm like great, let's have coffee together and cry Wonderful.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So, it's Britney bitch. I didn't ask this, but this just popped into my mind. Where do you see yourself five, 10 years from now? Where's Amber?
Speaker 2:at. I really, really would like to take first in one of these competitions in any category.
Speaker 2:That's my next little mini goal. You never know who's going to be there. You never know what your body's going to look like, what they're looking for, but as a goal, that's definitely what I would like to do, and I would like to get my pro card before I'm 50. I know it's a huge taking on. Some people do this for years and don't do that, but I would genuinely really really like to do it.
Speaker 2:This sport has been so great for me and it's so different than what I thought it was the day that I was back there. It's so intimidating because you see these women and it's a lot. And it was a pro show too. So I mean, these women are just fine-tuned more than you can imagine. I've never met a kinder, more welcoming group of women in my life and you would look at them and be like, really, like she's got to be a bitch. No, they were wonderful, like oh, it's your first show. This is so great. Make sure you try to do these things, make sure you need this. Don't forget that. Like so great and you're up there competing against these women for you know your fancy little crown, but they were wonderful and it's just such a supportive environment. Everything that I see, everything I watch like that's what I want the takeaway to be is that this is a tough sport. It this is a tough sport. It really really is a sport. It's a lot of work, but the people in it are so freaking genuine that it's shocking yeah.
Speaker 1:That's awesome. Yeah, well, thank you very much for coming on the show.
Speaker 2:Are you done with me? Yes, I am.
Speaker 1:Look at you, I am, I'm done, we're done yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't know if we have any more batteries. I'm nervous, I'm covered in sweat.
Speaker 1:I obviously need to eat. How can?
Speaker 2:people find you. Oh, I do have an Instagram. It's Amberlynn2925. Okay, that's it.
Speaker 1:Amberlynn, amberlynn.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry. A-m-b-e-r-l-y-n-n-e 2925. 2925. And that's on Instagram. It is on.
Speaker 1:Instagram it. Reach out to her Please follow me, please. Yeah, oh, my God, she has an amazing page. So does Monique and a bunch of the people that she mentioned here A2F and the owners and whatnot, and Prime. Yep, I want to thank Prime for putting us together.
Speaker 2:Yes, definitely.
Speaker 1:Definitely was worth the drive to come out here and meet you Hopefully you didn't get bored.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not bored at all, he's just exhausted now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I got to drive back in the LA traffic.
Speaker 2:Yay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, but thank you very much. I appreciate it. You shared a lot of knowledge here to the listeners. I thank you guys for always tuning in giving feedback If you want to obviously get ahold of me. It's a can't be broken on IG or UAG fit Same thing on TikTok UAG fit and you're you know just.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much, I really appreciate you just having me on here and like letting me do this, so it's a, it's a good step for me, like little baby steps, so wonderful time, thank you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean the first time I did my first podcast. I was so nervous.
Speaker 2:Oh, I've been up for two days. I'm nervous, still, I'm still nervous, and we're done.
Speaker 1:But I just yeah, I just have to realize that I'm just having a conversation and I'm just trying to learn from you as much as I can, as well.
Speaker 2:And this is.
Speaker 1:I come out of here like drained, because I know my emotions and everything went into this. I poured my heart to try to get the best out of you, to get the best for our listeners and to get the most out of you for myself as well.
Speaker 2:I'm a little selfish. This is great. I'm a little selfish, I like it. Shocking, Shocking right, you're a guy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, just kidding, we're all selfish, we're all selfish. But I want to thank everybody for listening and remember you can't be broken.
