Can't Be Broken
Can't Be Broken
Investing in Yourself: C-Monsters Mindset
Ring in the new year with us as we dive into the transformative power of internal motivation. Forget the fleeting allure of external gadgets and gimmicks; we're getting real about the profound shifts that come from deep within. As I reflect on the resilience woven through our past experiences, I invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery that challenges the need for vision boards and accountability partners. We're not just talking temporary fixes—we're fostering identity-level changes for lasting evolutions that resonate from the core of who we are.
In our commitment to self-improvement, we embrace the notion that to uplift others, we must first fortify our own foundations. I'll share how investing in your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being sets the stage for boundless growth and the capacity to give back with greater impact. Together, we'll explore how passion, deliberate choices, and forgiveness can be the bedrock of resilience. Embrace this heart-to-heart conversation that reaffirms your indispensable nature and cements your unbreakable spirit.
What up, what up, what up. And welcome to another episode of Can't Be Broken Podcast. I'm your host, sea Monster, and happy New Year to everybody. I want to welcome everybody back. New Year's 2024. And here we are, 2024.
Speaker 1:And what a great year, for me at least, and for everybody around me, I believe, and people that I'm in contact with, all my clients, all my friends. I'm super grateful and thankful. Everybody listening that supported, everybody that last year taught me a lesson. Last year I grew with. Last year we learned from each other, we grew, we evolved and was a blessing in my life. I want to thank you and for everybody who followed and listened and gave feedback, whether it was good or bad, and just appreciate everybody and I just want to say thank you and I'm super grateful and blessed.
Speaker 1:Business is great, family is amazing, my life is good and it's just continuing to move forward with life is not easy and so we learn and I know that there's going to be ups and downs every year and every day and every minute and second, and it's all good. We accept it, I accept it and we move forward. You appreciate the things that come your way and they either are there to teach you a lesson and grow from them or grow together. And I love the people and passion and people that are with good energy and around me and that I attract and they attract me and we vibe and we move forward and we listen and learn and communicate well, and that's what it's about. But happy new year to everybody. And as everybody is always talking about, they do these new year's resolutions. I don't do resolutions. I don't believe them in them. I know everybody's different and today what I'm going to talk about is just basically how people do resolutions. They set up new goals for every year and sometimes they hit them and accomplish them and sometimes they don't, and everybody does things differently. But what I want to talk about is one.
Speaker 1:Were you in the state of mind that you did a resolution, a goal planning, whatever you want to call it goal setting, motivational board, vision board? Were you in the right state of mind when you did that? Were you inebriated? Were you drunk? Were you at a party? Were you with others?
Speaker 1:What was going on during the mindset of you thinking that you need to change what happened? Why did you evolve into that and was it real? Or did you have almost like an epiphany and did you go into a dark place? Or did you go somewhere and evolve and really think about this internally rather than externally, like did you get pushed into this because you had a motivation, like an energy that pushed you into doing this and saying I need change, this is what I need, and then, just like anything else, lasts a little bit and then it goes away and you don't follow through with it.
Speaker 1:Because internally, like changing within and understanding that and that it's a process and that it's going to be hard and it's a lifestyle change and that you're different is what's really going to count to evolving, to change. Because if you're just doing it and you're at a party and you're like I'm tired of drinking, I'm tired of feeling this way oh my god, my jeans don't fit me. Oh my god, I feel sluggish. I don't like waking up like this I'm going to give up drinking for 30 days, or I'm going to give up drinking, or I'm going to start working out, I'm going to lose weight, or whatever the fuck you're going to do during that time. You're not in the right state of mind to evolve, to change or to be real. You're just talking about it. You're not really going to do it. You might do it for like a week or two, like I said, or even 30 days, but you're not a different person.
Speaker 1:Tony Robbins has said if you want to fucking change, it has to be enormous, huge fucking change. You're literally becoming a different person. If you're going to give up smoking or drinking, you're going to be a different person. And I asked you hey, do you want to smoke? Right now, you're not going to be like well, what kind is it? Or maybe just one? No, if you stop giving up smoking, you're going to say no, thank you. If you're counting the days like, oh, the last time I had a drink or a smoke was 30 days ago or 31, or it's been a year and two days, then you're just fucking hanging on to that. You're not different. You're not a different human being. It's a lifestyle change. You are no longer a smoker, you are no longer a drinker. You are who the fuck you are now and that was your past and that's gone. You don't need to count. You don't need to fucking count how many times you have a drag or this and that.
Speaker 1:Look, I'm giving you things that I believe are worth listening to in regards to real change because it begins from the inside. And if you're doing a vision board, a motivational board, having accountability, partners or or hey, me and my partner are going to go and we're going to fucking hit it. Let me tell you something those are external factors that are going to let you down. Those are things that you're depending on something else to get you through something a partner, a visual board, a journal writing something down. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying not to do that, to put something where you see it every day and it reminds you to stay fucking focused, stay on track, keep fucking pushing that's okay. I'm not saying not to journal. I'm not saying not to talk to yourself and write stuff down and have it. Not have a motivational board.
Speaker 1:What I'm saying is, if you need that, if you need another person, if you need the journal, if you need the vision board, the motivational board, to drive you, to inspire you, to motivate you, to get you to do what you need to do, it's not going to happen. What you need is internal fortitude. You need internal fortitude, you need to be driven, you need change, you need awareness that you no longer want to be the fucking person you were. You no longer want to be that person that you felt wasn't worthy. It's change. I don't want to fucking be that person anymore. I'm tired of it. I'm so fucking tired that I'm tired and I'm ready to fucking be different.
Speaker 1:I don't need a board or a person or an accountability partner or somebody else to show up. I need to fucking show up. I'm going to show up. I'm doing this because of fucking me and I'm going to fucking see how hardcore I can be. And I'm going to be better because I'm going to go through some hard times and I'm going to put myself through some hard times and I'm going to fucking seek wisdom, seek action, seek accountability, self accountability, seek growth and, through all that adversity and obstacles and struggles, I'm going to change.
Speaker 1:When your friends and family go man, you're different, you've changed. You're going to be like hell yeah, hell yeah, I've changed. That's right, 100%, thank you. No, no, no, I didn't mean that as a compliment. Well, I'm taking that as a compliment because I'm no longer that other person you knew. I'm no longer that lazy fucking person that expected things from somebody else. I'm no longer that person that expected you to show up. When you didn't and I did I show up? I tell you, I'm going to do something. I'm going to fucking do it. I show up for myself, I invest in myself, I move forward and invest in myself and with that, hey, you wanna join the ride? Let's fucking go. I'm happy for you. I'm happy for me. There's no hey, I don't. You know, I wanna change you. Nah, when you're ready to change, you'll change yourself. I ain't gonna change you.
Speaker 1:So many times I have clients that come to me and wanna change. Well, let me tell you something. I can give you the best advice. I can talk to you. I can do this. I can set up a workout. I can tell you how it's done, what to eat, what to do. But unless you really internally want to do it for yourself and want to change and invest in yourself first and are willing to grind through it and wake up on cold days and rainy days and hot days and early mornings and sacrifice other shit, then things ain't gonna happen. Because that's when the fucking everything's done.
Speaker 1:In the journey, in the process, you gotta choose discipline. Discipline equals happiness. Discipline equals freedom. It really does, because during control you choose, not externally choosing. You know, like going to a party and everybody's drinking and they're like here I have one. You're like nah, I wasn't drinking, fuck, I'll have one. Well, that's not your choice, you just were influenced by that. You were weak, you didn't have any discipline and we've all been there. I'm not saying I haven't because I have many a times, but many a times I have been disciplined. Many a times I have said no to shit. Many a times I have said yes to things, and it doesn't mean that you have to give up being happy or having fun shit. When I gave up drinking for a year, I was out stills watching UFC fights at bars. Was I drinking? No, because I knew that the next day or the next morning I had something to do, that I had to invest in myself, that I had to run, that I had to do whatever I had to do, that I wasn't drinking. That's it. No excuse, no, nothing.
Speaker 1:And the people that can't accept that maybe they're not your friends, maybe choose different friends. The people that don't accept that you're waking up early, going to grind, playing baseball, softball, basketball, football, whatever you're playing, doing this in school, that you can't hang out with them because you're trying to level up, maybe then, maybe right now, they're not for you. It doesn't mean that they can't be your friends, that you can't associate with them, but they have to understand that. They have to understand and want that for you and if they don't, choose some different friends. Listen, happy new year.
Speaker 1:I hope you took a little bit about this in regards to not in the bad way, but in the way that you have to think about. You're the most important fucking person and you can't help anybody else out. You can't help your loved ones, you can't help your partner, you can't help your kids, you can't help your coworkers anybody until you invest in yourself first. Don't be selfish that's not what I'm talking about but invest in your mind, your body and your soul. Seek wisdom, take action, take responsibility, have passion, make a choice, have faith and have forgiveness. You can be better. I know you can. We can all be better. Thank you for listening and remember you can't be broken.
